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1. What determines my behaviour ?
2. What assimilates my behaviour ?
3. What motivates me ?
4. How attached a person, am I ?
5. How dependent a person, am I ?
6. Who controls me?
7. Is the world a just place ?
8. Is there a Supreme Power ?
9. What kind of a person, am I ?
10. How I control myself ?
11. How positive I feel for myself ?
12. How self-disposed a person, am I ?
13. How prone am I to fear ?
14. How aggressive a person, am I ?
15. Is the world a prejudiced place ?
16. How prone am I to guilt ?
17. How prone am I to anxiety ?
18. How prone am I to hurt ?
19. How stressed a person, am I ?
20. How I manage my impression ?
21. How satisfying are my relationships ?
22. How happy a person, am I ?
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Introduction
Topics
1. What determines my behaviour ?
2. What assimilates my behaviour ?
3. What motivates me ?
4. How attached a person, am I ?
5. How dependent a person, am I ?
6. Who controls me?
7. Is the world a just place ?
8. Is there a Supreme Power ?
9. What kind of a person, am I ?
10. How I control myself ?
11. How positive I feel for myself ?
12. How self-disposed a person, am I ?
13. How prone am I to fear ?
14. How aggressive a person, am I ?
15. Is the world a prejudiced place ?
16. How prone am I to guilt ?
17. How prone am I to anxiety ?
18. How prone am I to hurt ?
19. How stressed a person, am I ?
20. How I manage my impression ?
21. How satisfying are my relationships ?
22. How happy a person, am I ?
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How prone am I to hurt ?
Hurt is an emotional pain
Anguish, sadness, unhappiness, upset
Varying importance of relationships
Immensely important
Little less important
Far less important
Hurt is function of perceived relational value
Association held with higher value by us expects higher value from others
Association held with lesser value by us expects lesser value from others
A perceived relational value lower than desired
Others actually value relationship lesser
We view others as evaluating relationship lesser
Perceived relational value has evolutionary importance
We needed supportive groups for protection, care, food
Social rejection was a direct threat to survival
Continued...
Perceived relational value has evolutionary importance
Sense of rejection – caused hurt then, causes even today
Physical pain
Draws attention to the affected body part
Warns for threats to physical wellbeing
Alerts to regulate activities against injury, death
Emotional pain
Draws attention to social behavior
Warns for threats to our emotional wellbeing
Signals to control action against setback, breakup
Common types of hurt
Rejected, avoided, ignored, criticized, betrayed, teased, taken for granted, not appreciated
Tips for Hurt
Analyze underlying facts
Do not fret on trivial issues
Introspect own behavior
Confront the cause if warranted
Continued...
Tips for Hurt
Seek emotional support
Focus on joys rather than pains
Forgive – yourself and others
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