
How satisfying are my relationships ?
Relationship
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Relationship

- Varying reasons for success and failure
- Immensely valuable for humans
Factors influencing the human relationship

- Characteristics of persons
- Nature of relationship
Characteristics of the person

- Agreeable, easy-going, trusting, giving
- More satisfying relationship
- Disagreeable, hostile, suspicious, selfish
- Less satisfying relationship
Meshing characteristics of two persons

- Good relationship if similar personalities
- Both extrovert or introvert
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Meshing characteristics of two persons

- Not so good relationship if opposite personalities
- One extrovert, another introvert
Leading and lagging personalities

- Good relationship if opposite personalities
- Leading takes control
- Lagging allows control
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Leading and lagging personalities

- Not so good relationship if similar personalities
- Both leadings want to control
- Both laggings wish the other to control
Nature of relationship

- Combination of rewards and costs
- Beneficial if rewards more than costs
- Detrimental if costs more than rewards
- Not a zero-sum game
Relationship rewards

- Companionship, emotional support, financial support, care, advice, etc.
Relationship costs

- Minor – annoyances, conflicts, frustrations, provocations, etc.
- Major – abuse, violence, addiction, spendthrift, etc.
Satisfaction in relationship

- Demands more than benefits
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Satisfaction in relationship

- Internal expectation level of benefits
- Minimum tolerance level of benefits
- Perceived alternate level of benefits
Satisfied relationship

- Benefits more than internal expectation level
- Higher the benefits, higher the satisfaction
Dissatisfied relationship

- Benefits less than internal expectation level
- Lesser the benefits, lower the satisfaction
Commitment to the relationship

- Tolerance level for minimum benefits
- Tolerance might be deeper than expectation
Walking out of the relationship

- Perceived benefits from the alternatives
- Extreme cases walk out without alternatives
Stable relationship

- Benefits exceed internal expectation level
- Benefits exceed the minimum tolerance level
- Benefits exceed perceived alternative level
Less stable relationship

- Benefits fall below the internal expectation level
- Benefits exceed the minimum tolerance level
- Benefits exceed perceived alternative level
Broken relationship

- Benefits fall below the internal expectation level
- Benefits fall below the minimum tolerance level
- Benefits fall below the perceived alternative level
Happy still quitting

- Benefits exceed internal expectation level
- Benefits exceed the minimum tolerance level
- Benefits fall far below the perceived alternative level
Tips for Relationship

- Exhibit high responsiveness
- Resist criticism
- Develop mutual trust and dependence
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Tips for Relationship

- Show tolerance for mistakes and corrections
- Praise others for good deeds and efforts
- Help others in living a life with a good reputation