How satisfying are my relationships ?

Relationship

  • Manner of connection for persons
  • General patterns
  • Unique features

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Relationship

  • Varying reasons for success and failure
  • Immensely valuable for humans

Factors influencing the human relationship

  • Characteristics of persons
  • Nature of relationship

Characteristics of the person

  • Agreeable, easy-going, trusting, giving
  • More satisfying relationship
  • Disagreeable, hostile, suspicious, selfish
  • Less satisfying relationship

Meshing characteristics of two persons

  • Good relationship if similar personalities
  • Both extrovert or introvert

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Meshing characteristics of two persons

  • Not so good relationship if opposite personalities
  • One extrovert, another introvert

Leading and lagging personalities

  • Good relationship if opposite personalities
  • Leading takes control
  • Lagging allows control

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Leading and lagging personalities

  • Not so good relationship if similar personalities
  • Both leadings want to control
  • Both laggings wish the other to control

Nature of relationship

  • Combination of rewards and costs
  • Beneficial if rewards more than costs
  • Detrimental if costs more than rewards
  • Not a zero-sum game

Relationship rewards

  • Companionship, emotional support, financial support, care, advice, etc.

Relationship costs

  • Minor – annoyances, conflicts, frustrations, provocations, etc.
  • Major – abuse, violence, addiction, spendthrift, etc.

Satisfaction in relationship

  • Demands more than benefits

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Satisfaction in relationship

  • Internal expectation level of benefits
  • Minimum tolerance level of benefits
  • Perceived alternate level of benefits

Satisfied relationship

  • Benefits more than internal expectation level
  • Higher the benefits, higher the satisfaction

Dissatisfied relationship

  • Benefits less than internal expectation level
  • Lesser the benefits, lower the satisfaction

Commitment to the relationship

  • Tolerance level for minimum benefits
  • Tolerance might be deeper than expectation

Walking out of the relationship

  • Perceived benefits from the alternatives
  • Extreme cases walk out without alternatives

Stable relationship

  • Benefits exceed internal expectation level
  • Benefits exceed the minimum tolerance level
  • Benefits exceed perceived alternative level

Less stable relationship

  • Benefits fall below the internal expectation level
  • Benefits exceed the minimum tolerance level
  • Benefits exceed perceived alternative level

Broken relationship

  • Benefits fall below the internal expectation level
  • Benefits fall below the minimum tolerance level
  • Benefits fall below the perceived alternative level

Happy still quitting

  • Benefits exceed internal expectation level
  • Benefits exceed the minimum tolerance level
  • Benefits fall far below the perceived alternative level

Tips for Relationship

  • Exhibit high responsiveness
  • Resist criticism
  • Develop mutual trust and dependence

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Tips for Relationship

  • Show tolerance for mistakes and corrections
  • Praise others for good deeds and efforts
  • Help others in living a life with a good reputation